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by lucy6lucy » 17 Sep 2017, 01:48

Yorkieandy wrote: 16 Sep 2017, 10:29 What you mean the bit where he said, "no one would ever condone laughing at someones disability"?

Which is exactly what you did Brucie. You laughed AT Ling for having the disability and not WITH him about his disability.

Laughing WITH Ling about his disability is fine if he's ok with that and is the point you made about keeping things light hearted with your family if they are suffering but laughing AT someone because they have a disability isn't fine which is the clear distinction i've been trying to make and trying to point out to people on here as being unacceptable.

For example, say you were at work and in a busy staff room eating your dinner with other staff and you were taking the piss out of a disabled colleague who wasn't present in the room and having a laugh, just as you were taking the piss out of Ling. I am sure that many people would confront you about it as being acceptable or even report you to management for it.

If you were in the staff room WITH the disabled colleague and both of you were having banter about being disabled then that could be considered a light hearted bit of fun on both sides with no malice.

The first example is clearly unacceptable to anyone with any semblance of intelligence and the second example could be deemed as in bad taste but the recipient of the mocking is present, aware and actively taking part in it. So whilst some would still consider that unacceptable, it's not as black and white as the first example i gave which is.

If it's not clear now it never will be.
Chill out Andy, I think you are thinking the thinking too much. If I was to over think I would come up with the hypothetical theory that all Torquay united fans are indeed going into depression. Maybe that's reality though in our current position. Is that an illness, probably not just a factor of being a Torquay fan. Does that make us all insane, probably.

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by Yorkieandy » 16 Sep 2017, 10:33

Also very pleased to hear that Clarke Carlisle is safe and well.

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by Yorkieandy » 16 Sep 2017, 10:29

What you mean the bit where he said, "no one would ever condone laughing at someones disability"?

Which is exactly what you did Brucie. You laughed AT Ling for having the disability and not WITH him about his disability.

Laughing WITH Ling about his disability is fine if he's ok with that and is the point you made about keeping things light hearted with your family if they are suffering but laughing AT someone because they have a disability isn't fine which is the clear distinction i've been trying to make and trying to point out to people on here as being unacceptable.

For example, say you were at work and in a busy staff room eating your dinner with other staff and you were taking the piss out of a disabled colleague who wasn't present in the room and having a laugh, just as you were taking the piss out of Ling. I am sure that many people would confront you about it as being acceptable or even report you to management for it.

If you were in the staff room WITH the disabled colleague and both of you were having banter about being disabled then that could be considered a light hearted bit of fun on both sides with no malice.

The first example is clearly unacceptable to anyone with any semblance of intelligence and the second example could be deemed as in bad taste but the recipient of the mocking is present, aware and actively taking part in it. So whilst some would still consider that unacceptable, it's not as black and white as the first example i gave which is.

If it's not clear now it never will be.

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by brucie » 16 Sep 2017, 09:38

I didn't think it would be long before you mentioned Clark Carlisle. To suggest that I would find anything amusing in someone being run over by a motor vehicle is just daft - mind you if he had decided to cross in front of last seasons Torquay bus I guess he would have escaped unscathed.

I've seen him play - excellent player, of course I am glad he has turned up ok.

In a previous life I have dealt with and attended some horrific accidents on the roads. I'll give you a list if you like.

Frenchgull summed it up perfectly.

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by MellowYellow » 15 Sep 2017, 21:17

merse btpir wrote: 15 Sep 2017, 12:59 We've had a few players go missing just lately......Liam Davies, Josh Gowling, Ryan Clarke, Jordan Lee, Chaney, Kluelesskowski, Old UncleTom Cobley and all....Luke Young even does it in the second half of away matches without getting injured and don't get me started on Jamie Reid!

Just watch the cripples pick up their mats and walk now the new management are here and the haven't got Nanny Nicholson, and his quack doctor Jeffreys there to indulge them.

On a serious note, I hope Clarke Carlisle is OK
Turning biblical on us Merse “I tell you, get up, take your mat and go..." (Mark 2:11)

Clarke Carlisle being OK is great news and can think of no-one who would not think the same.

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by Rjc70 » 15 Sep 2017, 19:00

Clarke Carlisle has been found safe and well. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-41280150

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by frenchgull » 15 Sep 2017, 13:03

No one would ever condone laughing at someone's disability ,whatever that might be , but laughing with someone to help alleviate that condition is a great way to counter the stress for all parties.

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by merse btpir » 15 Sep 2017, 12:59

We've had a few players go missing just lately......Liam Davies, Josh Gowling, Ryan Clarke, Jordan Lee, Chaney, Kluelesskowski, Old UncleTom Cobley and all....Luke Young even does it in the second half of away matches without getting injured and don't get me started on Jamie Reid!

Just watch the cripples pick up their mats and walk now the new management are here and the haven't got Nanny Nicholson, and his quack doctor Jeffreys there to indulge them.

On a serious note, I hope Clarke Carlisle is OK

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by United62 » 15 Sep 2017, 12:49

Andy.... read Brucie's message at the top of this page.

I couldn't have put it better myself.

We all have differing views on what's humorous and what's not. Like virtually everyone else on this forum, I have very close relatives with varying disabilities, some visible, some not and if we didn't have our own brand of humour to cope with life's ups and downs the world would be a very dark place indeed.

Clarke Carlisle going missing is not funny. Hopefully he'll turn up safe and sound. What is funny though, is that you think you have the right to tell us all what to think. It doesn't work that way. And, as Brucie said, if you don't like it, tough shit.

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by moneylife » 15 Sep 2017, 12:30

lugmeister wrote: 15 Sep 2017, 00:42 May this post be an apology for the timimg of yesterdays post,my intention was to give a frustrated fan base some info . I believe that the fans are the most important people and deserve to be kept in the loop as far as news is concerned. I wish Gary all the best in his new job and hope he can steady the ship and bring Torquay back to the english div 2 the league i believe is there stomping ground. Paul Sturrock p.s. yes my grammer is shocking its because of a miss spent youth lol

OK Now I smell pure bullshit

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by Yorkieandy » 15 Sep 2017, 12:16

United62 wrote: 15 Sep 2017, 08:13 :}


it's called HUMOUR.....
Yes. Just as i read today in the York Press that ex player Clarke Carlisle has been reported missing. Clarke attempted suicide by stepping in front of a lorry on the A64 near York a few years back due to a long standing battle with a depressive illness.

Anyone fancy making a joke about that?

No thought not.

I just hope he's found safe and well and can get the treatment required but just with less humour.

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by Yorkieandy » 15 Sep 2017, 09:42

I actually should be thanking those who have responded as i am currently writing a book about mental illness which i intend to self publish and distribute at some point next year. Ironically it is a book that does approach this delicate subject area in a light hearted context. Some of the proceeds are being donated to MIND the mental health charity and i have been encouraged by the interest in it even at this embryonic stage.

I now have some really good examples of different attitudes to my own regarding mental illness (obviously a miniscule sample set) and it would be interesting to highlight them and investigate them further. It also may help me to accept other views that are different to my own and so i can learn to respond more appropriately and calmly. So thanks again for your inadvertant help. :-D

Lots to think about.

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by United62 » 15 Sep 2017, 08:13

Yorkieandy wrote: 14 Sep 2017, 06:19 Yeah classic bit of disability discrimination there. Aren't there laws about that?
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it's called HUMOUR.....

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by SatNav » 15 Sep 2017, 07:03

Yorkieandy wrote: 15 Sep 2017, 06:28
Ask yourself if Martin read the post, or any of his immediate family and friends who I'm sure found his illness challenging to deal with read the post or indeed if his mental health team read the post. Do you think they would see humour in it?

It's not humour censorship. It's just having the common decency to not take the piss out of someone who is mentally ill. Pretty obvious really.
Get a grip. Seriously!! It clearly wasn't posted to offend Martin Ling.

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by Yorkieandy » 15 Sep 2017, 06:28

MellowYellow wrote: 14 Sep 2017, 23:45 I have a viewpoint on people with disability - their normal. They laugh, many are employed, have kids and even their marriages are successful (or not — just like everyone else). They play sport, like ice-cream and eat hamburgers and believe it or not, those with disabilities do have a sense of humour. They can enjoy a joke, even one aimed at themselves.

When one looks at the content of the post in question I think one can gauge it is meant in a humorous vein and in no way a vindictive one. Like all well-balanced people, those with disabilities can laugh at themselves too. So please let us not treat them differently by trying to subject them to a protective world of humour censorship.

No doubt my viewpoint will stir a hornet's nest, but it is what it is - just a viewpoint.

Ask yourself if Martin read the post, or any of his immediate family and friends who I'm sure found his illness challenging to deal with read the post or indeed if his mental health team read the post. Do you think they would see humour in it?

It's not humour censorship. It's just having the common decency to not take the piss out of someone who is mentally ill. Pretty obvious really.

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